Episode 129: How to Help Someone who is Suicidal

Introduction and Trigger Warning

Autumn Carter: This is episode 1 29.

Autumn Carter: Welcome to Wellness in Every Season, the podcast where we explore the rich tapestry of wellness in all of its forms. I'm your host Autumn Carter, a certified life coach turned wellness coach, as well as a certified parenting coach dedicated to empowering others to rediscover their identity in their current season of life.

My goal is to help you thrive both as an individual and as a parent.

Autumn Carter: Hi, I want to jump on really quick before we dive into the actual conversation with Britain Day. We are talking about suicide. This is a heavy topic with a lot of hope in there. You might not want to listen to this with children. I recommend you don't. There is also one cuss word. I think that's all that's in here.

But this is for more adult audiences. Check yourself for trigger warnings. If that comes up, reach out to me. I am happy to walk you through that. Like I said, this message is about hope. It's about healing. It's about the journey. It's about how to reach out to other people. So please bear with us as you listen to this, and I would love any and all feedback.

I will make sure to share it with Britton, who is just a wonderful spirit. I plan on having him back on. It'll probably be early next year by the time that the second recording comes out.

After he's lived a little bit more of his nomad. Life because I feel like he's gonna have a lot of spiritual insights after his Adventure in spain. So without further ado. Here is my interview with britain day

Meet Britton Day: The Suicide Monk

Autumn Carter: Thank you guys for being here. I'm so excited.

I have Britton with me. I met him a couple weeks ago on this Really cool networking.

 Meeting and he stood out to me because his podcast is called the Suicide Monk and I knew it was because of his own journey who starts a really cool podcast without them having some kind of personal experience With it. And I'm really excited to talk to him today and explore that because I have had suicide affect me personally from family members, I'm curious, I'm sure you followed the statistics to see how they've leveled off or if they have now, and he has a different take on life.

Which is really fascinating to me because, I've realized that there are certain places where I have that echo chamber, and I feel like he is going to stretch me in that way, so I'm very excited for that conversation. And he just feels like a very grounded individual. So I'm excited for all of us to dive in and see what comes out of this conversation.

So thank you for joining in and can we start with what led you to start your podcast? I'm sure that's quite a story.

Britton's Personal Journey with Suicide

Britton Day: Yeah, to start the podcast was a very long journey of, misery, and torment. I had woken up one day after a seven year stint of having a semblance of peace and joy in my life and, living at 75 percent in the good, 25 percent in depression.

anger, frustration, things like that still, I made a deal with God at the time because I had a, somewhat of a rocky relationship with my faith and my creator and what I believe and my belief system. I made a deal with him. I was like, if the suicide thoughts ever come back the way that they did.

They have been since I was 12. Then I'm done. I'm just done they came back seven years later I woke up one day and I was snowing out and I was living with some friends in a million dollar home on the lake Came back in full force and I was like, I'm done, I quit, I set my date. actually that day is a year ago today.

I should be dead. it's my birthday,

Autumn Carter: Happy birthday.

Britton Day: Yeah, thank you.

Autumn Carter: Us to meet today.

Britton Day: Yeah, celebrating life instead of walking towards death.

The Birth of the Podcast

Britton Day: The podcast came about, I was like, I'm done with my life. I can't do this anymore. There's so much ridicule and retraction, I should more say, there's not such ridicule as there is retraction of people who hear the word suicide, even though they've thought about it, even though they may have had somebody heard it.

They're connected in a lot of ways, but they retract from it probably because of that pain I've had friends take their life and there's always this thing that people say I wish I would have just had one more moment my buddy.

I wish I would have been able to hug him at least one more time

and you don't get to

And so the podcast came about, I was sitting at a bonfire one night with some friends and we were, it was an after work party and there was a young woman there that, was elusive, back in the crowd in the darkness and she was leaving and I just felt the micro vibrations.

The earth was whatever. And I was like, how are you doing tonight? And that's all it took. And, she sat down, told me her story. And from that point on, all I did was check on her on a regular basis. And two years later, we were sitting there and you know you saved my life.

I said, what do you mean? She said, you remember that night at the bonfire, so yeah, she goes, I was going to go take my life that night. I was like, Oh, and I realized in that moment, all I did was give her space, give her opportunity to let go of some of that pain. Didn't cure it. Didn't solve it. Didn't fix it.

But it gave her a moment of relief enough. To stay alive at least two more years and even though there's a struggle there and it's That so that's why I started I was like I wanted to if I was flipping off the world I was like, there's no place for people like me to talk about this. So I started offering anonymous interviews And really started to learn how to walk with people in that and different apparent opinions.

And then that also taught me everybody's got a story and everybody's beautiful and everybody's hurting and everybody's needs so much from all of us and we need to walk beside each other. And that's what the podcast became for me. 

Autumn Carter: I was going to take my life and, I had raised the money and that therapy was rejected. I realized that I can't carry people at that time, that I can only lead people and walk with them. And I learned that I'm, I'm capable of walking to the end with them. but I'm going to love them until the very end and I'm going to show them exactly who they are.

Understanding and Supporting Mental Health

Autumn Carter: Wow, there's so much to unpack here. And you're right that people do retract and it's that if I show an investment in you and that does happen, it's going to hurt me. So it's that protection and there's so much vulnerability that you're sharing in being open, and I'm gonna walk with you no matter what.

Britton Day: And there are people that, that do need in this realm, like severe mental health, help that, that's just not my qualification. I know how to walk with people who are trying to live, but they're walking towards death. And that's, there's a big difference in that mental health is a, see, I would tell you, I'm, I don't have a mental health issue.

I'm intelligent, I'm articulate, I'm self taught in a lot of ways, I'm an interesting person if I step back from myself, which I try to do often and be like, what story is this kid telling himself, and try and that's where I get, that's where I'm becoming, more aware of my presentation to life and to the world and to myself.

Autumn Carter: It's weird when you're the one used to interviewing, huh?

Britton Day: What's that?

Autumn Carter: It's weird when you're the one used to interviewing and instead you have to be the vulnerable one.

Britton Day: I'm just an emotional person, and that's the thing I would tell you.

I don't have a mental health issue. I have a trauma issue and that's a very big difference. If I hold on to the trauma, yes, it's mental health. Absolutely. That's because the reaction to the world is, ill informed. And what I mean by that is it's not correct information to my reaction to the world.

So the lies that I've told myself and the walls I've built as a child are now being torn down so I can rewrite that story.

Autumn Carter: I'm in that place too.

Britton Day: Oh, yeah. Painful.

So this is what I call the sweet spot. And in this place, this is where ideas happen.

Creativity happens. difficulties happen, but you approach them with new eyes, and a new presentation towards. Reaction in life. And it's a beautiful place to be. The next step is you have this grand realization, you become this new person and you blossom in a new way. And then the next step is, you start a whole new set of circulation and learning to deal with more difficult things.

The more you're able to handle and cope with, the more you're given. I believe that's true in our life. And as I look at my life and the walk I've taken, especially over the last two years, I've been broken and shattered in the midst of walking towards my death, but I had to be to really learn to live.

Autumn Carter: Sounds like you live in a much deeper way.

Britton Day: Yeah, I don't know that it's ever been superficial. I just transferred my vision from victimhood to, basically owning my life in every way. You know, there are these things that are criminal that happened to me, but they also made me the person that I am today.

They've made me this, what I would consider, and this took a lot of work, like this is only new to me that I actually love and like myself. I was going to take my life a year ago but I'm finally understanding what other people love about me. And what people pointed out about me, but, just discount.

And I'm starting to understand what a beautiful nature that I have. Am I a beautiful person and react perfectly all the time? Absolutely not. But no, you know what I do is I give myself grace now. I give myself allowance to not be perfect. And then actually that allowance allows me to be so much better in my life because it's something to work towards instead of something I'm shamed by.

So it's a whole different story and a whole different narrative and a whole different language. That's happening, but I had to die to myself. I literally leaned over the edge on this and Walked to my death and got pulled back out of it miraculously, I had a day, I had a time, I had a way, all those things are still valid and still are put in place, but they are no longer my go to.

Autumn Carter: So what would you say to somebody else who is you a year ago?

Britton Day: You can always do it tomorrow.

Live today. Tomorrow never comes, if you can always do it tomorrow. That's what my buddy used to tell me. It's in, The Princess Bride. It's, what is it? Antonio Montoya. And, I may not kill you today, but maybe tomorrow. It's something like that. It's something like, quote, like that.

And that's the idea. I kept that in mind so many times. Not today. Maybe tomorrow. And there's always, tomorrow just never comes. And that's the important thing to remember. If you fight for today, there's a way out of this. You just can't see it right now. I spent 44 years in misery, and this, what I would tell you, a methodic and beautiful dance was suicide.

I spent more time in suicidal thought and wanting to die than I did with anything else in my life. And walked towards that a few times, got pulled away from it really quick. This time I walked right to the, I walked over the edge. And there was no coming back and miraculously through a psilocybin treatment, that's what it broke down all the walls that I built as a child to protect me that were no longer true as an adult.

Yet, I carried those things into adulthood, every single one of them.

Autumn Carter: Can you explain this for people who are hearing you, but they're not quite understanding why somebody would be interested in suicide

Britton Day: my god That's the thing like the it's not about getting it. It's about walking next to people that are still alive that are suffering It's just there. It's our answer to the big problem. We don't know what the hell to do We don't know what we're useful for and we don't know what we're good for. We're I we're according to a lot of my evidence, I'm Useless according to the outside world.

That's not true. It's not true. You don't have to understand Somebody's mental health issue.

The Power of Love and Presence

Britton Day: You just have to love them That's it. You love them. Love will change them.

Love will start to allow them to see who they are because love will give you the proper terminology and the right words at the right time to say, I love you in a way that brings them back from the darkness that they feel. So often and then they'll start believing those things Instead of you trying to force a life on them that they don't want that they've been attracting from you don't have to push Somebody to save their life.

You don't have to lock them up. You don't have to put them on pills You cannot believe what a hug will do what? Just showing up Just show up. You don't have to fix anybody. You don't have to save anybody. Just show up. You know how valuable it is for me to be able to say, I am hurting today.

Pressure released. Still hurting. I'm not boiling, and then I can work through this and then I have a navigable Place that I can walk through this maze of life. And I can be like, okay, I just need to trim the bushes here. I need to release some stuff. I need to surrender this.

I need to let go. I need to just be, I need to quit playing the tapes. I need to surrender those things. Start surrendering things to whatever you believe. Your God, your universe, whatever. You'll be amazed at how your life changes. Amazed. I wake up every day and I surrender my anger, my joy, my kindness, my love, my frustrations, my inabilities.

Help me to shine in the love and the kindness. Help me to not put so much on the rage and the frustration and help me to learn the things that I need to today so I can be the best person I can possibly be for myself and then guess what? As you do that you'll naturally want to give those gifts away.

And then when you do it through love, it's not about forcing it on somebody It's about walking with them in shame. I'm here. Whenever you want to come back, I'm here and I'm not going to take you and your mental health personal anymore.

Autumn Carter: So the words that come to mind are safe space and letting go of the control and a book that I read recently by, marianne Williamson. She talks about how when there's love there, there can't be fear. And that kept playing while you were talking, that kept coming back over and over to me.

Britton Day: Yeah, love, and faith have no place for fear. They combat those things. They take hold of those things and rip them apart and show you exactly who you are.

Autumn Carter: What are your gifts?

Britton Day: I get to give away. What was never mine,

Autumn Carter: I have Kleenex on my side. Do you have some? Oh, there you go. So

I know when we were texting each other, you talked about how you've backpacked before and you're going to be doing it again. And it just, it feels like that connects to me. I don't know if you see it that way. You have this podcast that helps you reach tons of people, and then you're going to be among different people, living among them, sharing freely,

Britton Day: you I'm looking forward to

Autumn Carter: unplugging parts of yourself that need to be unplugged.

Having that reset time.

Britton's Background and Upbringing

Britton Day: 

My strength that might be different than somebody else's, and I'm not saying I'm the most powerful, I walked over the edge, but it wasn't because somebody else pushed me over the edge.

Britton Day: It was because of an evidence through my life that happened from the time when I was, all the way back. And I don't have a good place to say, Oh, I had a good life here. I have no reference point. there's sexual abuse, physical abuse, spiritual abuse. my mom was very abusive.

And when your mother fails, that's your last line of defense. my father was absent. He was just absent. He worked all the time. Drinking and fighting. Doing whatever he was doing, but he wasn't there and when he was there, my mom created havoc there.

Autumn Carter: So of course you thought you were the one at fault because if we look at nature, our parents, even in animals, our parents are supposed to be the protectors, right?

So they're trying to protect us. So we must be the ones. That are doing something wrong.

Britton Day: Right.

Autumn Carter: And it's really hard to go back and hold that inner child version of you.

Britton Day: It. They affirm it by their absence, their abandonment, their verbiage, their swings, the physical abuse, which goes away a lot easier than the mental abuse and the mental abuse is cruel and it's unruly and it justifies everything that you think about yourself.

It's hard enough to live in this broken world when you. have parents that are solid and teach you and guide you and try to do the best for you. It's still very difficult. There's nothing easy about that. But when you have to do it on your own or you have to rely on somebody who's not your family to raise you, it's there.

It's no wonder. I saw a statistic the other day they were talking about the divorce rate in America and the effects it has, on our population as a whole, because we have one of the highest divorce rates in the world. And who's the number one affected by that?

Our children. And we're not sticking out. Or working through, and I think it's because of this monocular mentality of what do I give? That is not service. That's not love.

Autumn Carter: Making sure you're a good match to begin with. let's talk about prevention here.

Do the work.

Healing Through Inner Work

Autumn Carter: Seek therapy. Seek whatever you need. Do the inner work. Make sure you have somebody that's the right match. And then, when children enter in, remember, it's not about you anymore. Yes, there are parts that need to be about you. You need to be about discovering yourself and furthering yourself in all the ways possible.

I talk about the eight dimensions of wellness, so like, all of you. But remember, it is about your child. It is about healing yourself so that you're not continuing on.

Generational Trauma and Healing

Autumn Carter: I'm sure your mom had some awful things happen to her and it was generational trauma.

Britton Day: Absolutely.

Autumn Carter: So work through that to make sure you're not passing that on.

Britton Day: And that's why, as I look back, I can honestly tell you I'm thankful for everything that happened to me. It's because it has made me who I am. It is formulating the future of who I am. And that will echo into my children's lives, whether I'm involved with them or not. They don't talk to me right now, because of my anger and my rage and the things that I brought to the table and this ugliness.

And I understand. I get it. I have no Animosity towards that. I think they need to be away from me. it's unfortunate that I don't have that and I don't get to experience that, and I don't get to be with them, but maybe that's the best thing for them.

Autumn Carter: As you're healing yourself,

Britton Day: that's

Autumn Carter: As you're healing yourself

Britton Day: yeah. but this is the thing.

Self-Forgiveness and Acceptance

Britton Day: I have to forgive myself and that's how I've done that, is I have to also give them grace to be who they are. And even though I have sorrowful moments like today's my birthday and I wish that I had them in my life right now and I was celebrating that in a normal capacity, I'm not, and that's okay.

And those are the sorrowful moments and it's okay to have the sorrowful moments. It's okay to be not okay about things that are real. I just don't have to die from anymore.

Embracing All Emotions

Autumn Carter: I think we tend to feel like we always need to be happy. We always need to have this high and this glow and be seeking for those things where this life is about feeling the whole rainbow of emotions and experiencing all the different experiences.

And when we are expecting to always be happy. It feels a lot more crappy. It feels a lot harder, a lot darker, and we could go about wanting to end it because we just want the darkness.

Britton Day: It's, I'll tell you, being in the darkness is a very tormentual place. You can't see, it's like being boxed in with no walls and in the darkness that there's just no light, no hope. It seems pointless, but it's not, this is what would tell people now, this thing that you struggle with, whether it be OCD, some mental health issue that you've been diagnosed with, anxiety, depression, autism, any of these things.

It's a perception of yourself. As we change the perception of ourself, these things might be your greatest asset. Do you think I want to be the suicide guy? No, but it's my greatest asset and gift to give away to people that are like me. Until somebody else comes along and starts doing it as well. And that's the thing.

There's room for this everywhere. And, I don't want to be the suicide guy, but right now I am. And that's okay. It doesn't make me, dateable. It doesn't make me attractive. In those sense, it's not an honorable position in the regards of the world. But it is in the regards of Giving gifts back and seeing people live and being able to step back from that and knowing that this isn't me, I get to be a part of something beautiful.

That's it. This is a gift.

Autumn Carter: How is this not honorable? You're still saving lives. I think it's more of the feelings that you have within yourself rather than what's you.

Britton Day: There's, I'm still struggling with my language and changing that towards myself. I'll give myself credit and then tear myself down so I don't have too much

Speaker: credit to

Britton Day: build, to build ego and that's what I've, it is, but it's also saying like Britain, are you really trying to build your ego here because you think you're nice because you think you're generous and or, kind or loving or is that really ego?

No, that's just truth about yourself. And we're taught that's ego, that if you like yourself, if you love yourself intimately in these ways, that's ego. Oh, you're building. No, it's not. That's the world lying to you. What's the world saying you're not good enough, but look at everybody that's been a pioneer.

It's because they believe that they don't believe they know what they're capable of. I know what I'm capable of now. This is where we get so stuck. Most people have the realization. of the things that they struggle with, but they never get to the belief part that they can do something about it.

So if they never get to the belief part, they'll never get to the knowing part. And I think that's the process of understanding the issues that we face in our daily lives. If I can recognize something, I can do something about it. That means I can believe that I can do something about it.

Transforming Anger and Shame

Britton Day: And then as I look at it, I know I have the capability of tackling it and let's just take my rage for instance.

It cannot be part of my new life. Cannot it. Absolutely. People are like, well, it's anger. You can't get rid of anger. It's part of your life. I'm like, I can get rid of anger. Why? Because I believe we have it in a, I don't know how this happened. I don't know why it happened, but I believe within myself, I have the ability to conquer this.

I hit my knees every morning and I surrendered that anger every morning. Do I still get frustrated? Do I still get mad here and there? Yeah. But I'll tell you what, my body's not reacting first now. My mind is you that's not really fun.

I don't want to be angry anymore and it doesn't get to hold. That's the big difference. Was something that has tormented me for my life.

Autumn Carter: I did something different for my anger. And it was really taking that time to differentiate, is this my anger? Or is this the anger of my abuser?

And then realizing it actually was his. And here's that baggage bag. I'm not taking that on anymore. And that was the only emotion that my parents allowed. And would respond to. So that was my go to. I still struggle with labeling my emotions, so I have an emotion wheel, that white poster that's hard to see, right above, yeah, that's the emotion wheel.

Because there's times where it's oh, what is that emotion? I'm not used to labeling that one, I'll have to look and, okay, it's this one. Okay, that is actually polar opposite of what I'm used to labeling and just seeing where I've grown with that, but it was really empowering to realize. That anger is not mine, right?

I actually don't feel anger very often. It's frustration and the other words So it's more pink not red if we're going into colors. I think of anger as red That helped a lot for me and it's interesting our journeys and how it's different And I think it's important to remember that we are meant to evolve

Britton Day: When that's the value, like your anger experience is different than mine. So you surrender to it differently. And that's the beauty of this is I don't have all the answers. I just understand your anger. I can relate to you, how you walk through that. that's your gig, but I'll walk with you because I know what it feels like and I know what it's like.

And I've been there and I can step back and not be offended by it. And I can, because I get it and it's ugly. When you're on the other side of your own behavior, it's ugly and it reminds you. And that's why I can walk with it because I need to forgive myself for those things. I need to let go of the things that I did to get there.

That make me feel bad and feel shame. Shame is a powerful thing. I realized that rage wasn't my problem. I realized this, even within the last few weeks, rage isn't my problem. Shame is my problem. Shame is the root of my rage. And it's silent and it's wicked and it's methodic. And shame is, it's an incredible thing that eats at your soul and allows the doors that would, will knock you over.

If you love it, it's the little things that you've let into your life, the little tapes that play. It's all shame. It's the way I've seen it. I just smacked me in the face the other day, it opened, it's opened the door on the wrong side. And I saw in and, figured out all my emotions are these outward reactions are based on shame.

What's that?

Autumn Carter: How old is your shame?

Britton Day: Millennium.

Autumn Carter: Mine is a little child because that's when the abuse started. And I picture myself showing that young version of me that shame. This is where I'm at now. There's not a reason to feel shame. And now that I'm a parent going back and saying I would never do that to my children.

This is proof that what was done to me was not right. This is not my shame to carry. It belongs back on them and that's a thing I wish I

Britton Day: I would say I wish I could go back and redo this with my children, but I can't, and I'm not going to put that in a regretful thing because they all have their own journeys.

And again, I wouldn't be sitting here if it wasn't. If anything went differently.

Parenting and Personal Growth

Britton Day: Our kids are there to be taught, everything else is a distraction. How beautiful it is to mold and shape a child in your image I saw this father, they were hiking in the back country and he was taking her, he was split skiing, is what they call it.

I took her snowboarding in the middle of the BC back country. She's seven years old. I'm like, that's living. That's teaching your child to live. And they're going to have some hard moments through there where he's going to teach her how to get up through puffy snow and it's going to be hard and it's going to suck and she might get stuck in a tree well, but he's going to be there to get her out.

And that's life. We're not molding them

Autumn Carter: in our image,

Britton Day: right? We're allowing a better

Speaker: image of themselves. Yeah. We're allowing them on their own journey and we're helping bowling where we put up those bumper guards to keep the ball going the right direction.

Britton Day: probably wouldn't. And

Autumn Carter: there's also remembering that we're still growing and developing and we're going to get it wrong and it's the repair that is the biggest deal.

And it is with all of our relationships and the biggest one, the biggest relationship we have is with ourselves. Our children eventually, hopefully go off and have their own lives. But at the end of the day, who are we stuck with?

Ourselves. Our most important relationship is the one that we have with ourselves.

Britton Day: And why would you not love that? We put so much energy into hating ourselves and disliking ourselves and shaming ourselves. Why not put a tenth of that energy into just surrendering that in two minutes of your day?

See what happens over a 30 day period. Surrender all your shit for two minutes a day. See what happens.

Autumn Carter: Meditate?

Britton Day: Well, it will. It'll send you into meditation. I found myself this year. I like meditation. I have a minimum amount of time that I sit in meditation, that's five minutes.

That gives me enough time to say, I'm going to sit in it longer or the monkeys are just too much and I need to do something else until I can come back. I found myself sitting up to an hour and a half in this just because of the invitation, the way it, the energy was going through my body and I just felt.

Incredible. I've been doing breath work where it feels like my blood's actually carbonated from doing this breath work. And it feels so uplifting. I'm like, Oh my gosh, there's so many things that we can do to change the course of our day in moments.

And I think that's how we combat these things to start because we expect the genie. There's no genie. We expect it to be fixed. It's not going to be fixed. It's work. It's hard. It's difficult. Find people that will walk with you. Walk with others. You want to stop feeling like crap?

Go volunteer. Go to a homeless shelter. That'll change your day. It'll change your day in a heartbeat.

Autumn Carter: And also listen to, what's the name of your podcast again?

Britton Day: The Suicide Monk.

Autumn Carter: Listen there.

Britton Day: You can find it on YouTube at The Suicide Monk 07.

Speaker: Why is 07 important for you?

Britton Day: Well, that's my birthday.

Autumn Carter: Oh, there we go.

Britton Day: Yeah.

Autumn Carter: Now we know the significance of 07.

Britton Day: The 07. Yeah. I'm like 07, not 007.

Autumn Carter: Well, thank you. Happy birthday. Do you have any final thoughts as we close out?

The Power of Spirituality and Intentional Living

Britton Day: You if you have a spiritual life, use it. don't just say it. Believe it. Start utilizing it. It's powerful. and I don't know how people do that in different ways, but utilize the ways that you believe. oftentimes we don't give ourselves enough space. To feel, to meditate, to pray, to read, to eat well, I mean, all these things are powerful tools to not feeling terrible exercise.

They're all powerful tools and they're right at the tip of your fingers and it'll take you less than a half hour to do it. All these things to get your day started. It's intentionality. Be intentional about your life. It's important.

Autumn Carter: We all have a purpose. Find it.

Britton Day: Yeah.

Autumn Carter: And hang on, enjoy the journey, right? I was just talking to a client, about the importance of setting up your day and that's exactly, yep. You just echoed what I was telling her earlier.

Respecting Yourself with Boundaries

Britton Day: Yeah, I'll leave you with this one thing that I've been working on, and it has to do with boundaries.

I don't like boundaries because boundaries feel like this hard line other people can't come and cross. And as I started doing the exercise, meditation, prayer, reading, yoga, food, I realized a matter of respecting myself. Instead of setting boundaries to protect myself, I've set boundaries to respect myself now.

That allows me to stay right here today, allow you to cross some of those lines. But when I know how I'm respecting myself, I'll push back to a point where I'm like, I'm okay with pushing back. I can now move that line instead of it being such a, somebody did this to me.

That's a hard boundary and that's a protection of yourself now. I can say this person did this to me I'm not gonna believe that but this is how I'll respect myself. I'll take the warnings I'll take the indications and I'll even move towards it a little bit But I still need to when I start respecting myself I'll move right back to where I need to be it's a whole different perspective on how I feel about myself And not how I feel about society

Final Thoughts and Reflections

Autumn Carter: That definitely, I can see the thread here of like your growth and how it all relates. I definitely see that. Thank you for this. Thank you for spending time with us.

Britton Day: Thank you for having me.

Autumn Carter: Yeah, it was a lot of fun.

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